How do I become one of those super chilled people who doesn’t seem to be worried about anything? (Basically like my husband). This is a question I have been asking myself a lot lately and it’s kind of a little goal of mine. By the end of this year I’m going to be super chill… if I say it confidently it might actually happen.
After a bit of thought but not much, I have come to the conclusion that the reason I am not a relaxed/go-with-the-flow/look-how-relaxed-I-am kind of person is because I am always worried about the future and what might happen to future Tessa, is it going to be good, is it going to be bad?
Over the last couple of weeks, I have come up with a few ways to help me stop thinking like this. The key is to trust in God but what are the practical ways I can do that?
1. Think about all the times in the past that God has been there for me during trials.
Bad things happen in life. Bad things have happened and bad things will continue to happen but I don’t need to be worried about what they might be and how I will get through it because God has always been there for me in the past. Thinking of the specific times God has been there for me in trials and what He has done builds up my trust and makes me focus on good rather than bad.
2. Remember how I wanted my life to go when I was 15 and be glad it didn’t turn out that way!
Recently I was talking with some of my good friends and we were remembering how we expected and wanted life to turn out when we were 15 and we laughed because looking back – if things had gone the way we wanted, life wouldn’t nearly be as good or exciting now! You can see why God doesn’t answer some prayers! Also if everything went smoothly and how we wanted, we would never have reason to grow or develop.
3. Remember that most of the time bad things are good too
If I think about the lowest points in my life, they actually have good memories attached too. For example, when I was at my worst with anxiety, I stayed with my best friend for two weeks and even though it was so bad I couldn’t even get on the bus to go to uni some days, we still had lots of fun times (for example when we played tampon darts… :p)
I don’t need to worry about bad things happening because there will always be little things like this that lighten the load and help you push through.
A little quote to finish…
“Whoever gives thought to the word will discover good, and blessed is he who trusts in the Lord” ~Proverbs 16:20